All Things Considered, The Easiest (Simplest) Answers, Are Usually The Right Ones?
So today, I am writing on behalf of all who think they can in no way or another, get it all together and that this thing called life, is just too damn hard to get through cause there is just 'too much' in the way to get it all right and figured out. I am here to say, you are soooo wrong, on so many levels. You are just looking at things as a whole, all your problems, wrapped up in one, all of your issues, piled up on one big laundry basket, your life, with all of its complexities, wrapped up like one of those 'biggest yard (or rubber band) balls in the world', ready to unravel at any given moment or second cause none of your life is poked in tidy enough for it to NOT come apart. That is the FARTHEST thing from the truth!
The truth is NO one has it all together, perfectly, not even the supermom's out there, not even the CEO's of the biggest fortune 500's, not even, the president, of this country or any other. We are all human, we are all living, each day, one day at a time. We all wake up, do a job; whether it be a 40+ job, several jobs or a housewife/husband, its a job. We eat, we drink, we walk and/or drive. We use the restroom, we shower/bathe, we take care of our households, our bills, our family, our children; we all do some form of living.
If you break your life down to the multitude of things you do in your life, one at a time, and analyze each, to know its place, what needs to be done to do each instance, how it needs to be done, how long it takes to do it, why it needs to be done and then ask yourself, IS it NEEDED in my life for my life to continue or be complete, you can answer a LOT of questions about your own life and make your life soooo much simpler, one step at a time.
So, how do you even start with understanding, where to start? You start with day one when you wake up. You don't have to make it a HUGE ordeal on how to organize your life. Take baby steps and realize that if you just work through one issue/instance of your life a day that can be organized better or removed, then you are one step closer to an easier, more fulfilled life.
But FIRST, you need to know, WHY do you feel the need to reorganize your life or figure out the complexities of your life. Are you not happy with your life? Is your life totally disorganized and you need to figure out how to make things simpler in your life? Or do you just not know your own life from all of the "unstructured" parts of your life and you just need to 'see' your life through the eyes of others to realize that you got it together more than you think you do?
So, Now that you have sat down and thought about why, now that you have your answer, which direction will you go? If you are not happy, you need to reorganize your life to clear out the clutter in your life to find your true happiness. This does not mean you have to necessarily get rid of anything or much of anything or even anyone, BUT it also means that you might have to get rid of a LOT of 'stuff' and maybe even one or more people in your life, depending on what direction you want your life to go, in order to find your 'happy place'. So, start decluttering, but slowly so as to not make your life even more of a mess, one day at a time, one step, one moment, one breath at a time, to be able to keep control of your life and be able to truly see where you want to go as your life slowly starts to change.
Is your life just totally disorganized? Ok, well then, lets get your started with organizing your life. You will need to start out by writing down your days activities, each and every one, for a week or two or more. This way you can see your habits and what you do, where you go, how much time you spend where, why and does it cost you anything; money, time, rest, lack of meals or lack of time with family. You are basically writing a diary, BUT, this diary is a diary of EVERYTHING in your life and its purpose in your life and what it is costing you or what it is adding to your life. You must include that too. Does what you are doing add to your health, or add to your life financially, or with stress eating, calories/fat, or gray hairs from stress, a better relationship with your spouse or children or boss or friends? What does your actions give you back and what are the reactions to your actions?
Now that you have your diary of events of your life and the reactions and actions and reactions to those actions and so on, you can sit down and see what part of your life is being repeated unnecessarily, or what part of your life is being neglected? What part of your life is being treated better while other parts of your life are declining because of those actions or even because of the reactions from your actions. Watch out now, this can get treacherous if you don't keep your repairs at working on ONLY ONE issue at a time. Any more than that, you can be criss crossing issues and causing yourself more problems and grief because you may not know how to better correct and overcorrect yourself if you misstep from one issue to another without correcting the first one. One day, one step, one issue/problem at a time. Write down all of the problems and issues that you are facing that you want to see cleared up or bettered and tackle them one at a time. Remember, just ONE, AT, A, TIME! And go!
Finally, is your life full of unstructured movements and you have no idea of where to start. Your life is disorganized but not; you are not happy, but you are; your life is cluttered, but its not. Where do you start? You start by simply sitting down with the ones you love the most, your lover, best friend, closest family members and ask them each, one by one, how do they see your life, truly and honestly to a painful fault and how do 'they' believe you can adjust your life to be better. Take notes, physically (some of us need to do so because our memories are just crud) or mentally (go you!! You got the brains and the beauty!) and then sit down and look at what everyone else has said they see how your life is going, or not going and what you can do to improve it. Now, take a deep breath and 'feel' each answer from each person. Does it 'feel' right or like something you would do if you are being true to you? IF yes, then put that suggestion in a 'consider' box. IF no, then throw that suggestion right in the can and move on. If you get no good suggestions, then, well you are on your own to figure your own self out and yes that is daunting because none of us want to face our own lives and our own demons and our own problems head on. NO ONE. BUT, if no one else see's you the way YOU see you and no one you spoke to, 'feels' the way you do about your life or life in general, then the only one you should be listening to is your own self and OMG, that can put many of us in shock and through hell and back because it is NOT something most of us WANT to deal with and forcing ourselves to do so, HA! Ok. This will be good huh?! BUT, IF yes, then take 'some' of their suggestions and FIT them to your life that makes YOUR life work. Don't just take them and try to PUT them into place. Look over them, feel them out, listen to your inner voice and then slowly make some changes based on 'some' of their suggestions or better yet, based on their suggestions that you mulled over to make your own with your own thoughts and feelings so you know YOU will truly be happy with your decisions.
Okay fellow friends, followers, creepers and stalkers and who cares-ers (a new word I just made up, yes I can do that lol!!), that is my two cents for today. A long read I know but hopefully, it will be well worth it for those of you who choose to read it. My blog today is in honor of two young ladies who may not think they have it all together, but they it more together than they think and maybe, a few of these words can and will help you find more solace in your own life and if not, maybe it was some good comic relief lol!! Here's to you Daisy and Bethany!!
Till we speak again, or till I do, potAto, po ta to lol! May your lives be enriched and full of love and life, each and every day and may you smile at least once, for yourself and for someone else, so that they may have a better day as well!! Much love to you all!!
The truth is NO one has it all together, perfectly, not even the supermom's out there, not even the CEO's of the biggest fortune 500's, not even, the president, of this country or any other. We are all human, we are all living, each day, one day at a time. We all wake up, do a job; whether it be a 40+ job, several jobs or a housewife/husband, its a job. We eat, we drink, we walk and/or drive. We use the restroom, we shower/bathe, we take care of our households, our bills, our family, our children; we all do some form of living.
If you break your life down to the multitude of things you do in your life, one at a time, and analyze each, to know its place, what needs to be done to do each instance, how it needs to be done, how long it takes to do it, why it needs to be done and then ask yourself, IS it NEEDED in my life for my life to continue or be complete, you can answer a LOT of questions about your own life and make your life soooo much simpler, one step at a time.
So, how do you even start with understanding, where to start? You start with day one when you wake up. You don't have to make it a HUGE ordeal on how to organize your life. Take baby steps and realize that if you just work through one issue/instance of your life a day that can be organized better or removed, then you are one step closer to an easier, more fulfilled life.
But FIRST, you need to know, WHY do you feel the need to reorganize your life or figure out the complexities of your life. Are you not happy with your life? Is your life totally disorganized and you need to figure out how to make things simpler in your life? Or do you just not know your own life from all of the "unstructured" parts of your life and you just need to 'see' your life through the eyes of others to realize that you got it together more than you think you do?
So, Now that you have sat down and thought about why, now that you have your answer, which direction will you go? If you are not happy, you need to reorganize your life to clear out the clutter in your life to find your true happiness. This does not mean you have to necessarily get rid of anything or much of anything or even anyone, BUT it also means that you might have to get rid of a LOT of 'stuff' and maybe even one or more people in your life, depending on what direction you want your life to go, in order to find your 'happy place'. So, start decluttering, but slowly so as to not make your life even more of a mess, one day at a time, one step, one moment, one breath at a time, to be able to keep control of your life and be able to truly see where you want to go as your life slowly starts to change.
Is your life just totally disorganized? Ok, well then, lets get your started with organizing your life. You will need to start out by writing down your days activities, each and every one, for a week or two or more. This way you can see your habits and what you do, where you go, how much time you spend where, why and does it cost you anything; money, time, rest, lack of meals or lack of time with family. You are basically writing a diary, BUT, this diary is a diary of EVERYTHING in your life and its purpose in your life and what it is costing you or what it is adding to your life. You must include that too. Does what you are doing add to your health, or add to your life financially, or with stress eating, calories/fat, or gray hairs from stress, a better relationship with your spouse or children or boss or friends? What does your actions give you back and what are the reactions to your actions?
Now that you have your diary of events of your life and the reactions and actions and reactions to those actions and so on, you can sit down and see what part of your life is being repeated unnecessarily, or what part of your life is being neglected? What part of your life is being treated better while other parts of your life are declining because of those actions or even because of the reactions from your actions. Watch out now, this can get treacherous if you don't keep your repairs at working on ONLY ONE issue at a time. Any more than that, you can be criss crossing issues and causing yourself more problems and grief because you may not know how to better correct and overcorrect yourself if you misstep from one issue to another without correcting the first one. One day, one step, one issue/problem at a time. Write down all of the problems and issues that you are facing that you want to see cleared up or bettered and tackle them one at a time. Remember, just ONE, AT, A, TIME! And go!
Finally, is your life full of unstructured movements and you have no idea of where to start. Your life is disorganized but not; you are not happy, but you are; your life is cluttered, but its not. Where do you start? You start by simply sitting down with the ones you love the most, your lover, best friend, closest family members and ask them each, one by one, how do they see your life, truly and honestly to a painful fault and how do 'they' believe you can adjust your life to be better. Take notes, physically (some of us need to do so because our memories are just crud) or mentally (go you!! You got the brains and the beauty!) and then sit down and look at what everyone else has said they see how your life is going, or not going and what you can do to improve it. Now, take a deep breath and 'feel' each answer from each person. Does it 'feel' right or like something you would do if you are being true to you? IF yes, then put that suggestion in a 'consider' box. IF no, then throw that suggestion right in the can and move on. If you get no good suggestions, then, well you are on your own to figure your own self out and yes that is daunting because none of us want to face our own lives and our own demons and our own problems head on. NO ONE. BUT, if no one else see's you the way YOU see you and no one you spoke to, 'feels' the way you do about your life or life in general, then the only one you should be listening to is your own self and OMG, that can put many of us in shock and through hell and back because it is NOT something most of us WANT to deal with and forcing ourselves to do so, HA! Ok. This will be good huh?! BUT, IF yes, then take 'some' of their suggestions and FIT them to your life that makes YOUR life work. Don't just take them and try to PUT them into place. Look over them, feel them out, listen to your inner voice and then slowly make some changes based on 'some' of their suggestions or better yet, based on their suggestions that you mulled over to make your own with your own thoughts and feelings so you know YOU will truly be happy with your decisions.
Okay fellow friends, followers, creepers and stalkers and who cares-ers (a new word I just made up, yes I can do that lol!!), that is my two cents for today. A long read I know but hopefully, it will be well worth it for those of you who choose to read it. My blog today is in honor of two young ladies who may not think they have it all together, but they it more together than they think and maybe, a few of these words can and will help you find more solace in your own life and if not, maybe it was some good comic relief lol!! Here's to you Daisy and Bethany!!
Till we speak again, or till I do, potAto, po ta to lol! May your lives be enriched and full of love and life, each and every day and may you smile at least once, for yourself and for someone else, so that they may have a better day as well!! Much love to you all!!
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